Spring break here has been filled with excitement! We've gone from birthday celebrations to egg hunts to Easter to a mini girl's road trip to living room camping and even had visits from the Tooth Pirate and the Tooth Fairy! Needless to say, I think this sums up why I've been m.i.a. for a while.
Right before all of this fun, we did spend one very long night at the ER with Cole. After a weekend of terrible flaring, refusal to eat much, culminating with one seemingly endless afternoon and evening of inconsolablility, our pediatrician sent us to the hospital. Of course our gremlin transformed back into an angel after the tranquil thruway trek and the triage nurse looked at me as if I had three heads when I explained why we were there. Lucky for me, the second Cole woke back up, his distress was more than evident, so I no longer fielded the "look at the crazy mom" glares.
Throughout the night, the staff performed numerous tests and x-rays as ordered by Cole's g.i. doctors. While he had a fever and a great deal of inflammation in his abdomen, the general consensus was that there was something amiss, yet other than the iv fluids the doctors felt there wasn't much else they could do right at that moment. They explained the need for all the tests results to come in and be analyzed, which would take about 48 hours. So after a few hours of hydration, we were sent on our way.
Once we were home, we sleepily started our routine of trying to get Cole to eat and drink. As long as he continued to drink, the doctors said not to worry too much about his lack of interest in food for a couple days. Hopefully once he started to feel better, he would perk up, which is exactly what he did.
A few days later, the call came with the test results. While the doctors were not shocked at the positive tests for blood and inflammation, they were surprised at how well everything else looked. In fact, the nurse said she had to triple check that she was looking at the results for the right kid because Cole's numbers in portions of his tests had never looked so positive, even from two weeks earlier. Some values still were low, but they were far beyond what they were expecting to see.
Knowing that things are moving in the right direction makes me breathe a little easier. I am certain someone above is really looking out for him right now and feel all the prayers are helping. Cole has a long few weeks ahead, filled with immunizations and a surgery at the end of the month. With such a stupendous start to April I am hoping for smooth sailing as we forge ahead further into our odyssey, hoping we are done with Charybdis, and nothing else remains to blow us off course.
Thank you again for all of your continued encouragement and support. I continued to be overwhelmed at the kindness and love from all of you, especially those of you who don't even know us. We are truly blessed and my gratitude is beyond words.
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Saturday, April 14, 2012
Monday, January 23, 2012
Reflecting
As I look at this week's schedule, I'm glad we are seeing a familiar specialist. Every time we go to a new doctor we have to retrace our steps, recreate Cole's journey from the beginning even though records and results have been shared before we've stepped foot in the office. While I realize it's necessary, it is also draining.
Reflecting on the past year, whether in a doctor's office or in my head, leaves me needing to take a deep breath and slowly exhale. Lately, I've been tackling the triumphs and challenges of each day as they come instead of looking backwards or looking too far ahead.
I've learned that there's no controlling certain situations, that they themselves force you to suspend plans, as if you've pressed the pause button on the future. Instead, at least for me, the best way to cope is to live life purely in the moment and for the day.
That being said, when I think about everything that has led to today, I am almost overwhelmed. Not in an "I can't handle this" sense, but more of an "I can't believe Cole has been through all of this already."
At the same time, I'm thankful. I think of some of the families I've talked to in waiting rooms and how much harder their journeys have been! So while it does break my heart to watch my son go through each needle prick or to listen helplessly while he screams from the inside of an imagining machine, I know it could be much worse on so many different levels.
Many of you have been with me every step of the way, following the saga as it began to unfold, whether it be hearing from me or getting updates from other very close family or friends. The more appointments and tests we were hustled to, the harder it became to update everyone waiting for a call. I didn't feel these rundowns were appropriate Facebook status messages, especially since most of the time we were left with more questions than when we walked into each consultation. Without answers, I didn't feel I had much to share about how our little guy was doing. In fact, that's where I am right now.
Still, I feel compelled to reflect and share our timeline, since I know many of you are curious as to where the updates are and there are some of you who are just starting to follow our plight, and in order to make sense of where we are now, I believe it helps to know where we've been.
Here it is, as short and sweet as I can make it.
Cole was born full term after a very fast, difficult labor. Initially, my husband and I were able to hold him but while he was under routine evaluations nurses noted that he could not maintain his body temperature.
As a precaution, our baby was rushed to the NICU. For the first 24 hours, each visit to the unit seemed to bring more unexpected news; suspected sepsis, continued low blood sugar readings, and the need for a feeding tube.
Slowly, our son began to recover and learn to eat, so we were able to bring him home but were told to be cautious, that we should not expose him to anyone who might be sick.
So we came home, had very quiet holidays with just our kids and brief visits from the grandparents. It was an odd winter. After a fall of taking it easy, I was ready to be social, but in Cole's best interests we lived in a cocoon for the winter, waiting for spring when we could push ourselves out and spread our wings.
Things seemed to be going well until Cole was just about three months old.
At the end of February we were finding ourselves in a better groove as parents of three kids. Our five year old was such a little mom, helping with anything she could. On the other hand, whatever bucket of trouble was around, our three year old would not only stumble upon, but dive into, doing her best to become the center of attention. She loved her brother and would try to help, but at the same time she missed being the baby and had no problems making this fact known.
About this time, we started noticing blood in Cole's diapers. At first it was a few streaks here and there, then it turned into giant globs. Something was wrong.
Our pediatrician sent us to Women and Children's hospital for an evaluation. After an ultrasound to rule out telescoping of his intestines they determined he was most likely allergic or sensitive to dairy and soy. Since Cole was exclusively breastfeeding, this meant no more soy or dairy for me. The doctors told me once I eliminated both elements from my diet it wouldn't be long before we saw an improvement and in the end, most kids outgrow these protein allergies by their first birthdays.
After a few weeks passed, there was no improvement, Cole continued to bleed. In addition, after his four month immunizations he began to have a very odd fever pattern. In the end, it was determined that he must have had a shot reaction. His next round would be split up, one shot at a time.
Spring turned to summer, the symptoms continued, yet we were told to keep up with the elimination diet and to try feeding Cole different foods. Initially, he ate a little, then he refused to eat anything, just wailed and pushed all food away. The screeching went on throughout meal times as well as the rest of the day while his "output" declined. No matter what we tried to feed him, if he ate two baby spoonfuls we were lucky.
In August my husband and I were at a loss with what to do. For me, I felt like I must be doing something wrong - but what? This wasn't our first baby and while I had many questions and was often unsure of what I was doing with Paige, our first, I was very confident with Gwyneth, our second. Being our third, I was sure we were in for smooth sailing.
At our appointment this month we were assured the allergy should disappear by his birthday. However, I still had a nagging in my gut that something was not right. After all, at this point he was eight months old and besides all the medical issues, he was barely trying to roll over, sit up, or crawl. Instead, he would remain in the middle of whatever blanket I would lay him on.
We were sent for blood work and told we could do a colonoscopy to see what was happening. When the blood results were in, we learned Cole was severely anemic, which could account for his low activity level. To treat his anemia, he was placed on iron supplements. Doctors also decided he would undergo a few other less invasive tests to rule out other conditions before scheduling his colonoscopy.
Both tests showed nothing so the colonoscopy was scheduled in October. We had to wait a bit because Cole would need to be in an operating room just in case. The hour in the waiting room after he was taken from me was excruciating! I watched doctor after doctor come out and talk to parents in the waiting room. When Cole's physicians appeared they asked me to follow them.
Once in the consultation room the resident began to show me pictures of what they had found. As he moved from image to image he tried to describe the hundreds of nodules they had discovered. Before long, the more experienced physician took over, gently explaining the abnormality of what they observed, but assured us that before we worried too much about what could be we should wait for the biopsy results. She handed me pictures, an appointment date and led me to my son in recovery.
Wires and tubes wrapped their slender coils around my baby like ivy. Seeing him asleep, yet so pale and so helpless made me sad that we had to put him through the whole thing. As I sat in the rocking chair and reached for his tiny hand, the nurse told me she was so sorry. Through our conversation I learned she saw the pictures from Cole's test and from her experience had not seen anything so extensive in such a little one. While we waited for our appointment day her comment lodged itself in my head, adding to my nervousness.
With our appointment still a week away, the phone rang. It was the g.i. practice. While they could not share results over the phone, they wanted us to come in first thing in the morning instead of the following week. Once we were there, they did an exam, which I thought was odd because he had just had one prior to his procedure. My husband reminded the doctor that we were there for test results, not an exam, and the resident smiled, said this was routine and that he needed to go get another doctor.
The two doctors walked in and sat down. Now, I know from past experiences that when multiple doctors ask you to sit down, what they may share with you may not be good. Both physicians explained how the practice sat down to discuss Cole and look at similar case studies since they had not experienced anything quite like this in someone so young. They told us as a group they had different thoughts on how to progress. It could be a number of things, Crohns disease, ulcerative colitis, or something else. They just weren't sure. For now, they would treat Cole as if he had Crohns and would order IBD panels to see if these nodules were the likely result of one of these irritable bowel diseases. We asked questions and at the end of the appointment both doctors wished us luck and sent us home.
Our ride home was quiet. I know my head was reeling. How could doctors not know? How could a baby have something like this? How could I stand by and do nothing but give him meds and wait?
When I shared what the doctors had to say with my sister, she gave me some advice, as she often does whether I want it or not. She and her husband had once experienced some bad news about one of their kids. She said, let myself be upset, cry if I needed to, but limit the wallowing, it wouldn't do any good, I couldn't change what was happening by being upset. Just take a night, be upset, then move forward with whatever needed to be done. Be strong and happy, for it would be best for not only me but all our kids.
It is this advice I come back to when I'm tempted to feel sorry for Cole or our situation. Really, it could be worse. And while I would give anything to take it away from him and go through it all myself, I can't. Accepting what is out of my hands has been tough for me, but has also made me realize just how strong I can be.
It is from this point that our journey took off like the speed of light. Stay around for the ride, it starts to get wilder than I ever would have imagined.
Reflecting on the past year, whether in a doctor's office or in my head, leaves me needing to take a deep breath and slowly exhale. Lately, I've been tackling the triumphs and challenges of each day as they come instead of looking backwards or looking too far ahead.
I've learned that there's no controlling certain situations, that they themselves force you to suspend plans, as if you've pressed the pause button on the future. Instead, at least for me, the best way to cope is to live life purely in the moment and for the day.
That being said, when I think about everything that has led to today, I am almost overwhelmed. Not in an "I can't handle this" sense, but more of an "I can't believe Cole has been through all of this already."
At the same time, I'm thankful. I think of some of the families I've talked to in waiting rooms and how much harder their journeys have been! So while it does break my heart to watch my son go through each needle prick or to listen helplessly while he screams from the inside of an imagining machine, I know it could be much worse on so many different levels.
Many of you have been with me every step of the way, following the saga as it began to unfold, whether it be hearing from me or getting updates from other very close family or friends. The more appointments and tests we were hustled to, the harder it became to update everyone waiting for a call. I didn't feel these rundowns were appropriate Facebook status messages, especially since most of the time we were left with more questions than when we walked into each consultation. Without answers, I didn't feel I had much to share about how our little guy was doing. In fact, that's where I am right now.
Still, I feel compelled to reflect and share our timeline, since I know many of you are curious as to where the updates are and there are some of you who are just starting to follow our plight, and in order to make sense of where we are now, I believe it helps to know where we've been.
Here it is, as short and sweet as I can make it.
Cole was born full term after a very fast, difficult labor. Initially, my husband and I were able to hold him but while he was under routine evaluations nurses noted that he could not maintain his body temperature.
As a precaution, our baby was rushed to the NICU. For the first 24 hours, each visit to the unit seemed to bring more unexpected news; suspected sepsis, continued low blood sugar readings, and the need for a feeding tube.
Slowly, our son began to recover and learn to eat, so we were able to bring him home but were told to be cautious, that we should not expose him to anyone who might be sick.
So we came home, had very quiet holidays with just our kids and brief visits from the grandparents. It was an odd winter. After a fall of taking it easy, I was ready to be social, but in Cole's best interests we lived in a cocoon for the winter, waiting for spring when we could push ourselves out and spread our wings.
Things seemed to be going well until Cole was just about three months old.
At the end of February we were finding ourselves in a better groove as parents of three kids. Our five year old was such a little mom, helping with anything she could. On the other hand, whatever bucket of trouble was around, our three year old would not only stumble upon, but dive into, doing her best to become the center of attention. She loved her brother and would try to help, but at the same time she missed being the baby and had no problems making this fact known.
About this time, we started noticing blood in Cole's diapers. At first it was a few streaks here and there, then it turned into giant globs. Something was wrong.
Our pediatrician sent us to Women and Children's hospital for an evaluation. After an ultrasound to rule out telescoping of his intestines they determined he was most likely allergic or sensitive to dairy and soy. Since Cole was exclusively breastfeeding, this meant no more soy or dairy for me. The doctors told me once I eliminated both elements from my diet it wouldn't be long before we saw an improvement and in the end, most kids outgrow these protein allergies by their first birthdays.
After a few weeks passed, there was no improvement, Cole continued to bleed. In addition, after his four month immunizations he began to have a very odd fever pattern. In the end, it was determined that he must have had a shot reaction. His next round would be split up, one shot at a time.
Spring turned to summer, the symptoms continued, yet we were told to keep up with the elimination diet and to try feeding Cole different foods. Initially, he ate a little, then he refused to eat anything, just wailed and pushed all food away. The screeching went on throughout meal times as well as the rest of the day while his "output" declined. No matter what we tried to feed him, if he ate two baby spoonfuls we were lucky.
In August my husband and I were at a loss with what to do. For me, I felt like I must be doing something wrong - but what? This wasn't our first baby and while I had many questions and was often unsure of what I was doing with Paige, our first, I was very confident with Gwyneth, our second. Being our third, I was sure we were in for smooth sailing.
At our appointment this month we were assured the allergy should disappear by his birthday. However, I still had a nagging in my gut that something was not right. After all, at this point he was eight months old and besides all the medical issues, he was barely trying to roll over, sit up, or crawl. Instead, he would remain in the middle of whatever blanket I would lay him on.
We were sent for blood work and told we could do a colonoscopy to see what was happening. When the blood results were in, we learned Cole was severely anemic, which could account for his low activity level. To treat his anemia, he was placed on iron supplements. Doctors also decided he would undergo a few other less invasive tests to rule out other conditions before scheduling his colonoscopy.
Both tests showed nothing so the colonoscopy was scheduled in October. We had to wait a bit because Cole would need to be in an operating room just in case. The hour in the waiting room after he was taken from me was excruciating! I watched doctor after doctor come out and talk to parents in the waiting room. When Cole's physicians appeared they asked me to follow them.
Once in the consultation room the resident began to show me pictures of what they had found. As he moved from image to image he tried to describe the hundreds of nodules they had discovered. Before long, the more experienced physician took over, gently explaining the abnormality of what they observed, but assured us that before we worried too much about what could be we should wait for the biopsy results. She handed me pictures, an appointment date and led me to my son in recovery.
Wires and tubes wrapped their slender coils around my baby like ivy. Seeing him asleep, yet so pale and so helpless made me sad that we had to put him through the whole thing. As I sat in the rocking chair and reached for his tiny hand, the nurse told me she was so sorry. Through our conversation I learned she saw the pictures from Cole's test and from her experience had not seen anything so extensive in such a little one. While we waited for our appointment day her comment lodged itself in my head, adding to my nervousness.
With our appointment still a week away, the phone rang. It was the g.i. practice. While they could not share results over the phone, they wanted us to come in first thing in the morning instead of the following week. Once we were there, they did an exam, which I thought was odd because he had just had one prior to his procedure. My husband reminded the doctor that we were there for test results, not an exam, and the resident smiled, said this was routine and that he needed to go get another doctor.
The two doctors walked in and sat down. Now, I know from past experiences that when multiple doctors ask you to sit down, what they may share with you may not be good. Both physicians explained how the practice sat down to discuss Cole and look at similar case studies since they had not experienced anything quite like this in someone so young. They told us as a group they had different thoughts on how to progress. It could be a number of things, Crohns disease, ulcerative colitis, or something else. They just weren't sure. For now, they would treat Cole as if he had Crohns and would order IBD panels to see if these nodules were the likely result of one of these irritable bowel diseases. We asked questions and at the end of the appointment both doctors wished us luck and sent us home.
Our ride home was quiet. I know my head was reeling. How could doctors not know? How could a baby have something like this? How could I stand by and do nothing but give him meds and wait?
When I shared what the doctors had to say with my sister, she gave me some advice, as she often does whether I want it or not. She and her husband had once experienced some bad news about one of their kids. She said, let myself be upset, cry if I needed to, but limit the wallowing, it wouldn't do any good, I couldn't change what was happening by being upset. Just take a night, be upset, then move forward with whatever needed to be done. Be strong and happy, for it would be best for not only me but all our kids.
It is this advice I come back to when I'm tempted to feel sorry for Cole or our situation. Really, it could be worse. And while I would give anything to take it away from him and go through it all myself, I can't. Accepting what is out of my hands has been tough for me, but has also made me realize just how strong I can be.
It is from this point that our journey took off like the speed of light. Stay around for the ride, it starts to get wilder than I ever would have imagined.
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